Posted by: Esther | January 9, 2008

His Help Meet

Well I am taking a little detour from the Genesis study, but I will get back to it. I am reading Created to Be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl. It is fabulous so far and so contrary to how I was raised. I was raised to be a feminist. I was not taught how to cook or clean, because the plan was not that I become a house wife, but some kind of carrier woman. Preferably a doctor or lawyer, but they settled for teacher. Now I find myself in this predicament of having to teach myself how to cook and care for a family; how to be a descent housewife. Not because I have some chauvinist husband who is keeping me barefoot and pregnant (those of you who know him are laughing), but because this is the situation the Lord has put me into, my choice, and the place that best helps him and honors God.

Here are some scriptures that support the role of woman as a man’s help meet:

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Proverbs 18:22 [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

Pearl explains that we are created to fill a need; equipped in every way to be our man’s helper; created to make him complete, not to seek personal fulfillment parallel to him. She writes, “A woman trying to function like a man is as ridiculous as a man trying to be like a woman.” Ooooh! My feminist flesh flinches, but my spirit is at complete peace with this and I am overall intrigued and desire to be this help meet for my husband.

1 Corinthians 11:8-9 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

1 Corinthians 7:34 but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please [her] husband.

Pearl writes, “It is not a question of whether or not you can do a better job than he; it is a matter of doing what you were designed to do.” “Her readiness to please motivated her to look around and see the things she knows her husband would like to see done.” “It is our job to learn how we can help our husbands in every way possible.”

She goes on to write that our first calling is to be of service to our husbands, then our children, and when time affords, our passion of service will spill over to serving others (screeching of tires sound in my head). Head spins around to catch that again…”My first calling is to be of service to my husband?” I believe my first calling is to be of service to God, however in our service to God, we will realize that our service to our husbands is meet and should be the most important meet as it was designed for us to be. So I am in agreement with the overall message of what she is explaining.

In my next blog, I will go over the attributes of a woman according to scripture. And I plan to squeeze in another blog about Joseph as well, God willing!


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