Posted by: Esther | January 15, 2008

Attributes of a Woman

In Debi Pearl’s book, Created to be His Help Meet, Pearl lists 5 words or traits which she suggests to locate in scripture, write the verses and ask God to work each of the attributes into our character. Following is the list of words, where I have found each in scripture, and how they pertain to a woman’s character.

1. Virtue

According to the Strong’s Concordance and Vine’s Dictionary, the New Testament use of the word virtue refers to excellence. The Old Testament use of the word refers to a woman’s ability and in some cases represents her domestic skills. It is the Old Testament use of the word that pertains mostly to women, so I will list those scriptures below.

Ruth 3:11 And now, my daughter, fear not; I will do to thee all that thou requirest: for all the city of my people doth know that thou [art] a virtuous woman.

This was told to Ruth by Boaz when he found her laying at his feet. Ruth was found to be virtuous, able to care and provide food for her mother-in-law while a foreigner in a town whose people would act highly racist toward her.

Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman [is] a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed [is] as rottenness in his bones.

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.

2. Graciousness

Vine defines gracious, for our purpose, as pleasant and agreeable.

Proverbs 11:16 A gracious woman retaineth honour: and strong [men] retain riches.

3. Wisdom

Proverbs 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness.

This of course refers to the infamous Proverbs 31 woman.

4. Prudent

To be prudent is synonymous with acting wisely, according to the Vine.

Proverbs 19:14 House and riches [are] the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife [is] from the LORD.

5. Goodness

All verses I read with goodness refer to the God’s goodness in the widest sense of the word which would include traits 1-4 along with fairness, beauty, justice, etc. I could not find a scripture that specifically related to women.


Heavenly Father, bless me with the attributes of a woman that will make my husband complete and full in being and in the tasks that you have given him to do. Bless me with virtue as you blessed Ruth, so that my husband will be honored and so to honor You, even in the face of opposition. May I be a crown to my husband; a prudent wife as a gift from You to him. May I be gracious and wise in all that you give me to do. Bless me with your goodness to be the help meet to my husband, which you have created me to be. In Jesus’ name. Amen


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